Fail to find sexual attraction towards women.How can I marry?

Jazakallah for writing to the institute regarding your problem.

It has become fashionable for so called scientists, biologists, social engineers & others to claim that homosexuality is "genetic, hormonal, congenital, a mental illness, and biologically predetermined". Alhamdulillah, you have repented and you are striving to live your life in accordance with Allah Ta'ala's commands. Please understand that my response to your mail is not in judgment of you.

Allah Ta'ala did not create homosexuals and lesbians. Allah Ta'ala created man and woman to be comforters, partners, lovers and companions of each other. It is through the sexual union of a man and woman that a child is granted to the couple. If Allah Ta'ala had intended for men to have sex with men and women with women, He would have clearly stated so in the Quran. However, we read of Allah Ta'ala's wrath and the destruction of people who went against His plan for mankind. It is through the Quran, which is Allah Ta'ala's speech to us, that we are clearly reminded that same sex partners are not acceptable to Allah Ta'ala.

You have not experienced the pleasure of a woman's love, comfort and grace. You have not sensed the warmth of her body. You have not known the pleasure which Allah Ta'ala has placed in fulfilling your sexual desires with a woman.So how can you say that you are not attracted to the idea of a wife? Unfortunately, you are bombarded with arguments that are 'pro gay this and pro gay that' which have probably helped you to accept that this is the life for you. Those who wish to propagate and make fashionable this lifestyle have managed to con governments, so called pious people and even the churches etc into believing that being gay is a perfect way of life. Do not allow yourself to be conned by this hyped up garbage. The subtle and devious juxtopositioning of terms like "sexual orientation " and "sex role identity" are meant to give a message to you that your condition was pre-ordained and fixed by some force beyond your control.As if Allah Ta'ala had no part in your Creation and your role in this world, na'uthu-billah.You are Allah Ta'ala's creation. You are just as special, if not more special than the next human being. You have been granted the greatest gift of all, that of imaan. Give yourself the opportunity to live your life according to Allah Ta'ala's plans and cast off the hype of those who do their utmost to make you believe otherwise.

You say that you have felt this way since childhood. I aim to ask you some very personal questions.Did you indulge in or were you made to indulge in sexual activity with boys or men at an early age? Did an adult male or older boy molest you or expose himself to you when you were a child? Were you made to view pornography involving males?

It is possible that somewhere in your childhood something triggered this belief in you. Please feel free to discuss your problem with me.

Allow me to suggest that you sincerely seek Allah Ta'ala's guidance and assistance in this matter. Read the holy Quran with meaning and with commentary so that you can fully appreciate Allah Ta'ala's laws and plans. Perform your 5 salaahdaily punctually everyday. Perform salaatul Haajjah and salaatul Tahajjud everyday. Make istigfar and recite darood in abundance. Try to focus on changing your mindset and overcoming the negative influences around you. Speak to an elder in your family or community and ask them to approach your parents with a view to giving you more time beofre making any decisions rearding marraige. If possible, seek counselling from a pious person or a Muslim psychologist who has taqwa and is deeni conscious. You are welcome to write to me again if you wish to do so. May Allah Ta'ala embrace you with His love and grant you the best of this world and the hereafter. Ameen.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

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