Get lost, leave this house, will that statement constitute divorce
Question
Assalam o alaikum!
On one occasion, on my wife asking me to give her gift over and over again, I said to her the following statement to stop her from asking one thing again and again, despite I had ensured her that I will keep it mind in future to bring her the gift that she would like.
"Get lost, leave this house".
I had no intention of divorce at the time. However, now I am worrying if this has contituted a divorce and I am also getting anxious and frequent waswasas if I had an intention to divorce her or otherwise. Please provide ruling, given above circumstances.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
In principle, if the husband utters a word or a statement that has dual or multiple meanings and some of the meanings could mean divorce (talaaq), then divorce will take place only if the husband intended divorce with the word or statement. In that instance, one talaaqe-baain (irrevocable divorce) will take place, which terminates the nikaah immediately.
In the enquired situation, you did not intend divorce by saying "Get lost, leave this house".
Hence, this does not constitute a divorce and your Nikaah is valid. [1]
This incident should serve to remind you in future that intolerance leads one to tolerate a bigger problem.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Muhammad I.V Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
(2018-11-07)
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
[1] بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (3/ 106)
وَلَا خِلَافَ أَنَّهُ لَا يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ بِشَيْءٍ مِنْ أَلْفَاظِ الْكِنَايَةِ إلَّا بِالنِّيَّةِ فَإِنْ كَانَ قَدْ نَوَى الطَّلَاقَ يَقَعُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى، وَإِنْ كَانَ لَمْ يَنْوِ لَا يَقَعُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى، وَإِنْ ذَكَرَ شَيْئًا مِنْ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ: مَا أَرَدْتُ بِهِ الطَّلَاقَ يُدَيَّنُ فِيمَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى؛ لِأَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى يَعْلَمُ سِرَّهُ وَنَجَوَاهُ
مجمع الأنهر في شرح ملتقى الأبحر (1/ 402)
(وَلَا يَقَعُ بِهَا) أَيْ وَلِهَذَا لَا يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ بِالْكِنَايَاتِ قَضَاءً (إلَّا بِنِيَّةٍ) أَيْ بِنِيَّةِ الزَّوْجِ، أَوْ الطَّلَاقِ مُضَافًا إلَى الْفَاعِلِ، أَوْ الْمَفْعُولِ (أَوْ دَلَالَةِ حَالٍ) ؛ لِأَنَّهَا غَيْرُ مَوْضُوعَةٍ لِلطَّلَاقِ بَلْ مَوْضُوعَةٌ لِمَا هُوَ أَعَمُّ مِنْهُ وَالْمُرَادُ بِدَلَالَةِ الْحَالِ الْحَالَةُ الظَّاهِرَةُ الْمُفِيدَةُ لِمَقْصُودِهِ وَفِيهِ إشَارَةٌ إلَى أَنَّ الْكِنَايَاتِ غَيْرُ مُؤَثِّرَةٍ بِدُونِ النِّيَّةِ وَدَلَالَةِ الْحَالِ
العناية شرح الهداية (4/ 8)
وَإِذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ صَرِيحًا كَانَ كِنَايَةً لِعَدَمِ الْوَاسِطَةِ وَالْكِنَايَةُ تَحْتَاجُ إلَى النِّيَّةِ
العناية شرح الهداية (4/ 61)
[أَلْفَاظٍ يَقَعُ بِهَا الطَّلَاقُ الرَّجْعِيُّ]
قَالَ (وَأَمَّا الضَّرْبُ الثَّانِي وَهُوَ الْكِنَايَاتُ) لَمَّا فَرَغَ مِنْ الضَّرْبِ الْأَوَّلِ وَهُوَ الصَّرِيحُ شَرَعَ فِي بَيَانِ الضَّرْبِ الثَّانِي وَهُوَ الْكِنَايَاتُ. الْكِنَايَةُ: مَا اسْتَتَرَ الْمُرَادُ بِهِ
وَحُكْمُهَا أَنَّهُ لَا يَجِبُ الْعَمَلُ بِهَا إلَّا بِالنِّيَّةِ أَوْ مَا يَقُومُ مَقَامَهَا مِنْ دَلَالَةِ الْحَالِ لِأَنَّهَا غَيْرُ مَوْضُوعَةٍ لِمَا اُسْتُعْمِلَتْ فِيهِ بَلْ تَحْتَمِلُهُ وَغَيْرَهُ فَلَا بُدَّ مِنْ التَّعْيِينِ أَوْ دَلَالَتِهِ
الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (3/ 315)
(قال لها اختاري أو أمرك بيدك ينوي) تفويض (الطلاق) لأنها كناية فلا يعملان بلا نية
فتاؤي محموديه جلد 18 ص 117 و18
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- Muhammad I.V Patel
- Checked & approved by
- Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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