I started masterbating at the age 13... Now I am very angry at my parent who did not tell me what is halal and what is haram in the first place, I am emotionally very devestated. What should I do
Question
I am emotionally devestated and very angry at my self and my parents, when i found out that masterbating is haram. I started masterbating at the age 13 and it continued till at the age of 25 ,during this period i tried to leave this evil habit but was not able to do so , until when i read a hadith of the holy Prophet(PBUH) which say .." donot marry your hands ... " . Now I am very angry at my parent who did not tell me what is halal and what is haram in the first place , I am emotionally very devestated . What should I do , Will my parents be also punished for this haram thing i have been doing for years , how can i heel the harms of this evil habit on me emotionally and physically
Answer
Allah is Most Gracious and Most Merciful. He says in the Noble Qur'aan, 'Oh My Slaves! Do not despair. Verily Allah will forgive all sins.'
In one Hadith, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) is reported to have said, 'If a person has sins equivalent to the foams of the sea and pebbles on a desert, Allah's mercy is so encompassing that He will forgive every sin.' In another narration, it is mentioned that Allah will speak secretly to one of His slaves on the day of Qiyaamat and remind him of all his sins. After the person will confess his sins, Allah will say to him, 'I concealed your faults in the world, today too, I will conceal your faults. Go in Jannah, I have forgiven you.'
The above mentioned are few of many Ahaadith explaining the extent of Allah's Mercy. However, Allah says, 'Verily Allah will not forgive a person who ascribe partners (commit Shirk) with Him.' The only sin that is unforgivable is Kufr (disbelief) and Shirk (ascribing partners). Accepting Islam is the only atonement for the sin of Kufr and Shirk.
If one fulfils the conditions of repentance, i.e. regret and make firm intention to reform, then surely Allah Ta'ala is Tawwaab (Most Forgiving)
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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