Sacrificing parents’ happiness for love

The way forward would be for the boy to find someone senior and respected, like an elder in the family or a reputable Aalim to discuss the matter with his parents in order to find a suitable outcome.

It should also be noted that besides the reason given for the parents not wanting that particular girl, there may be other reasons for which the parents are unhappy. Obviously the parents reasons must not be unislamic.

Parents who have sacrificed their life to raise their children most definitely desire to see them happy and successful. But to have all those sacrifices thrown back in their faces because their child has fallen in love is not an easy pill to swallow. Love is one of the most powerful emotions but it can also be a very foolish emotion. The idea that love will make everything right works very well in fairy tales but rarely as well in real life. It makes sensible people do very foolish things, the results of which can haunt a person for many years later.

From amongst the reasons that Islam encourages marriage, love is not considered a factor. The person you love today can easily be the person you hate tomorrow. Relationships come and go but family remains family. Burning your family bridges does not make for a successful and happy marriage.

We advise the boy to think very carefully before he sacrifices his parents’ happiness and their many favours upon him for the sake of something as fickle as love.

And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best