Holding one's mother's head and taking a qasam
Question
I did a job in Saudi Arabia. On my vacation my mom came to know that I am connected with a girl (na mahram) with love. My mother told me to put your hands on my head and take a "qasam" that you will not talk to your lover in future and you will forget her. I did as she said with intention that I will follow her qasam. But I came to know that this type of qasam is haraam in Islam, so what is the worth of that "qasam". Could I break that? or my mom has to take beg for forgives from Allah because my mother never mentioned the name of Allah in her qasam? Please answer me soon as possible.
Answer
The qasam is valid, but you should refrain from taking the oath in this manner.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Q: Now, I want to talk to her. I am living very difficultly without her. We decided to ask this question from mufti before starting our conversation. So tell me can we break that qasam and can I give kaffara by keeping fast three consecutive days?
A: The qasan is valid even though the name of Allah was not mentioned.
Don't ever talk to her without making nikaah.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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- Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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