Getting married after being involved in premarital affairs
Question
I'm 27 years old. I'm basically from India and working in this country. My family has arranged a girl for me who is a local Muslim girl born in this country and she's 19 years old. I went to see her few days ago and it seems like both of us are interested in each-other. The families are happy too. Now what's bothering me about her is when I ask her about her past life, she said she has been in a relationships few times. And she did sleep once with a guy. (which I appreciate that she didn't lie or hide) Now after knowing that I'm like almost heartbroken. I also had couple of relationships and I was also engaged in all those haraam acts which I regret now to the core of my heart but I never had sex which I told her. I often watch porn and masturbate. And I only had oral sex. Please help me out. Are we both in a same boat? are we equal sinners? Should I go for her? I have seen she's really sorry about her act. And she's Willing to change.
Answer
It would seem like both of your are equal. As long as both are committed to lead a chaste and pure life then it is advisable that you get into nikaah.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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- Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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