Saying "It's done" while discussing talaaq

My husband divorced me once over the phone but made ruju. Later on we had many fights. I asked him for divorce or to end the marriage and he said "ho gayi" meaning it's done, along with many other words that I don't remember. This was in person.

Then at another time after more fights, I asked him to end this and he said, "Samjho ho gayi or ho chuki" meaning consider it done. I wanted him to text me the word talaq but he said I'll send the papers in mail. I gave him the address because he asked. But he couldn't go through with it. Later on, he said since he didn't use the word divorce, it probably didn't occur.