Being shy and bashful

· 19 Muharram 1436 AH1 min readEnglish
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Question

I am an 18 year old boy. I m 5ft 7inch tall. I got a strong muscular body and I am a very active boy. The problem starts when I am in school. I feel so shy that I can't even participate in different activities. Can't give my opinion in debates. Can't ask the miss a question if the class is quiet. Can't play sports because I think what others may say about me and I am a very timid boy in school. My friends are boys and I can't even mix up with them too. Socially my worth is nothing. Sometimes I look at people who are not good like me (I am not being proud but I am just saying) even they are confident and make the class lively. Please help me out with this. Sometimes I feel so sad and depressed that I don't have many friends because of shyness and can't do what I want to do. Shyness has cost me a lot. Please send me a dua or something which will make me confident and will boost my self esteem. I don't like talking to girls neither I want nor I will but I can't even ask them about homework or just anything about studies or anything related to studies. I feel like my face is ugly so people don't want to talk to me and my friend often tells me that I got a handsome face. Its not about the face but when no one talks to me I feel like isolated and weird. Please help me.

Answer

It is not wrong to be bashful and shameful. Hence, don't stress over this.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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