A Husband Forcing His Wife To Go Out And Work
Question
I have been married for six years. I soon realized that my husband is greedy and money minded. He forced me to continue with my job threatening with divorce if I did not. My job is too hectic, I generally come back home late in the evening 7 or 8pm. I feel guilty for my two children who are neglected. I am on blood thinner for life time after my second child birth. I can’t give time to my children and my health as well. Can I refuse to work? And Please advise me. What do I tell him or how do I address the situation.
Answer
It is the sole responsibility of the husband to provide for his wife and children, furthermore considering your health condition, nurturing of the children and the unavoidable challenges that face one in the working environment it will be correct for you to refuse to continue with your job.
Islam has very clearly explained the rights and responsibilities of every individual. Men for example, are to take care of the needs of their families’ food, shelter, clothing etc. Women are required to stay in their homes, look after the property and wealth of their husband, take care of their children and remain chaste. They should not demand from their husbands more than what they can afford nor should they disobey them keeping in mind the commandments of almighty Allah Ta`la. By doing so they will earn their Jannah.
You should explain to your husband the difficulties you are experiencing, the importance of correct upbringing of the children and having them to enjoy motherly care and attention. He should also understand the harmful and challenging working environment and above all it is the command of
Allah Ta`la that women should remain indoors.
If this does not prove beneficial then you would have to approach an elderly family member of his or an Aalim of the area that can discuss with him and solve the issue. By you encouraging and making it easy for him to spend time in the company of Ulama, listen to talks of Deen and go out in Jamaat this will create within him the understanding and desire of giving preference to Deen over amassing wealth.
Every condition is from Allah Ta`la and can be solved only through His will, thus continues sincere Dua is of utmost importance and will surely not go unheard in the court of Allah Ta`la.
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
أو نفقة الاولاد الصغار علي الاب لا يشاركه فيها احد كما لا يشاركه في نفقة الزوج
(الهداية مع البناية ٥٣٣/٥)
فرض وهو الكسب بقدر الكفاية لنفسه و عياله…
فتاوى هندية ٣٤٨/٥ مكتبة ماجدية) فتاوى هندية ٥٤٤/١ / ٥٦٠/١
وقرن في بيوتكن ولا تبرجن تبرج الجاهلية الاولي…… (أحزاب ۳۳)
والمراة في بيت زوجها راعية وهي ومسؤولة عن رعيتها … بخاري ٢٥٥٢/٢٤١١ / ٢٥٥٥ / ٢٧٥١ )
يا ايها النبي اذا جاءك المؤمنت يبايعنك علي ان لا يشركن بالله شيئا ولا يسرقن ولا يزنين ولا يقتلن اولادهن ولا ياتين ببهنان يفترينه بين ايديهن و ارجلهن ولا يعصينك في معروف فبايعهن و استغفرلهن الله ان الله غفور رحيم (الممتحنة ١٢)
بیوی کا نان و نفقہ اور سلونت کے لئے جگہ دینا شوھر کے ذمہ ہے (۳۲۸/۶ آپ کے مسائل) جس عورت کا شوہر موجود ہو اور وہ معذور نہ ہو، کما سکتا ہو ، اس کا نان و نفقہ شوھر کے ذمہ ہے۔ اسکو ملازمت کی کوئی مجبوری نہیں ایسی عورت کو چاہئے کہ و ملازمت ترک کر دے اور شوہر سے نان و نفقہ کا مطالبہ (۳۲۷/۱۶ آپ کے مسائل)
- Approved by
- Mufti Muhammed Saeed Motara Saheb D.B.
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