Honouring one's promise
Question
My husband sometimes gets very moody and talks rudely to me. This is getting out of hand so we spoke about it and he agreed to stop. My husband is very weak and we both know that when he is moody he can't control himself and he will speak rudely to me. We both agreed verbally that if he speaks rudely to me I won't have any physical relations with him for 3 days. Mufti if within those 3 days if he asks me to have a relation with him and I refuse am I sinful?
Answer
If he promised then he must honour his promise.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
عن زيد بن أرقم أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال من وعد رجلا فلم يأت أحدهما إلى وقت الصلاة وذهب الذي جاء ليصلي فلا إثم عليه رواه رزين (مشكاة # 4883)
قوله فلا إثم عليه قيل فيه دليل على أن الوفاء بالوعد ليس بواجب شرعي ؛ بل هو من مكارم الأخلاق بعد ان كان بنية الوفاء وأما جعل الخلف في الوعد من علامات النفاق كما مر معناه الوعد على نية الخلف وقيل الخلف في الوعد من غير مانع حرام، وهو المراد هنا وكان الوفاء بالوعد مأمورا به في الشرايع السابقة (لمعات)
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- Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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