Marriage · Subtopic
Intimacy & Marital Relations
703 fatawa from 6 South African Darul Iftas on Intimacy & Marital Relations, part of Marriage. Newest first; every fatwa links to the page where its Darul Ifta published it.
Subtopics are grouped from each Darul Ifta’s own categories and the fatwa titles, so the count is approximate.
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Intimacy & Marital Relations fatawa — page 17 of 18
- Ask Imaam20 Oct 2003
if husband & wife hve not had sexual relations for more than 6 mths & hve been living apart for 2 yrs is the nikah still valid?
Yes, the Nikah is valid. Q: How long can a married person stay away from his wife? A: A married person may stay away from his wife for whatever…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam14 Oct 2003
My husband came home in anger and said 'I divorce you' three times in one sitting no one present. We have benn living since then in same appartment but with no phisical relationship. Is it divorce
We have problems in our relationship for more than 3 years now.More than a year ago my husband said 'I divorce you' three times in anger in one…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam11 Aug 2003
Is there any dua for a woman whose husband doesn't fulfil her sexually (no foreplay ect),who can she reveal these frusturations to, without getting sin for revealing bedroom secrets?
You may seek advice without going into the intricate details in a suitable manner. Maa shaa Allah, that you have taken the step forward to improve…
2SOCIAL DEPT - Ask Imaam11 Aug 2003
22yrs old; married. I have a wonderful husband (23yrs old). But our relationship isn’t going well. How can I make him understand that I need his attention?
I?m 22yrs old; married. Allhumdulliah, I have a wonderful husband (23yrs old). But our relationship isn?t going well. We met in college 4 years ago.…
2SOCIAL DEPT - Ask Imaam11 Aug 2003
husband does not trust me or support me financially nor does he show any affection towards me.am i allowed to ask for a talaaq on the grounds of my sexual needs not being fulfilled.
It would be advisable for you to get someone from your family to discuss your problems with the intention of attempting a reconciliation first.…
2SOCIAL DEPT - Ask Imaam5 Aug 2003
What islam says about “ iddat” of a divorced woman who had divorce before “rukhsati” but she had sexual relations with her husband in secret?
The Iddat for a divorcee after having conjugal relationship with her husband is three menstrual cycles. If she is conceived, the Iddat will be till…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam24 Jul 2003
If a wife please her husband by masturbation & their private parts do not touch, is bath compulsory for her.
Husband: he has to take a bath if he ejaculates. Wife: Bathing is not compulsory upon her. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam16 Jun 2003
could u tell me is it ok for husband and wife to have sexual intercourse in public areas providing no one is around?? Also is it ok for husband wife to see each others private parts??
It is not permissible to have sexual intercourse in public areas even if there is no one around. Apart from the possibility of the relationship…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam11 Jun 2003
If the actual kissing of the private parts is not allowed are we allowed to kiss around the private parts obviously taking care that no liquid (Mazi) gets into the mouth. Is this allowed?
It is permissible. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam28 Apr 2003
What is the correct sexual intercourse position that should be used in Islam?
Hadhrat Abdullah ibn Abbaas (Radhiallaahu Anhu) narrates that the Aayat, ?Your wives are a tilth (farm) for you, hence, go unto your tillage as you…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam19 Feb 2003
My wife often chooses bedtime as the time for negotiation on the issues we disagree, deprives me of my pleasure (e.g., sexual intercourse). What should I do?
We suggest you use a very loving and caring attitude to your wife. Thereafter, with lot of wisdom and diplomacy you address the issue with her and…
for: Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam6 Feb 2003
I had a physical relationship with a man, which I deeply regret. Should I tell the prospective husband about this? What if he asks me about it?
I embraced to Islam a while ago. I am in the process of getting to know a muslim with the intention of marriage. Before my reversion I had a…
for: Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam24 Jan 2003
What does Islam say about an unmarried man and an unmarried woman who are indulging in sexual relations?
The illicit relationship between an unmarried male and female is Zina (adultery) and Haraam (strictly prohibited). In an Islamic state, if…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam17 Jan 2003
Is it allowed to engage in sexual activity alone?
I ask you if it is bad to have sex alone?
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam6 Jan 2003
I am intrested in a guy to get marry and he is equally intrested, can you refer something to read for Allah to tie us in this relationship.
I am intrested in a man to get marry and he is equally intrested, as our intentions are very clean and right so hopefully with the blessing of Allah…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam26 Dec 2002
At night when we sleep with our wife can i touch her private parts,
At night when we sleep with our wife can i touch her private parts, even tho i am not sleeping but she is sleeping and she dont know anything? And…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam14 Dec 2002
Can we have sex with our wife in the shower or bathroom together? Can she wash and clean our private parts and can we wash and clean there private parts?
1. Yes, it is immodest to do so without covering one?s private parts. 2. No. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam14 Dec 2002
Is it Ok for husband/wife to look at sexual videos to help sexual relations in their marriage? If not permissable where should they seek help from?
It is Haram (strictly prohibited) for anyone, including marriage partners to seek help in their intimate relationship by viewing sexual videos. If…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam2 Dec 2002
Based on a hadeeth, I heared that if a man is not obedient to Allah eg. does not make salaah, then he looses his rights over his wife (sexually). Is it true and explain?
Disobedience to Allah does not lead to losing one?s rights over his wife in anyway. We do not know of any Hadith cited by you. and Allah Ta'ala…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam14 Nov 2002
Is it ok for a husband to perform oral sex on his wife? Also can husband/wife masturbate each other and show private parts?
Oral sex is not permissible. The husband may masturbate his wife and vice versa. Although it is permissible to see each other?s private parts, it is…
Moulana Imraan Vawda - Ask Imaam12 Nov 2002
Is it permissable to use 'sex toys'(eg vibrator) when having relations with ones spouse
It is permissible but undesirable. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam23 Oct 2002
I know its not allowed to marry a Uncle (ie: Father's Sister's husband) but if this relationship has crossed their limits by doing zina.
I know its not allowed to marry a Uncle (ie: Father's Sister's husband) but if this relationship has crossed their limits by doing zina. So now the…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam4 Sep 2002
I am a 19/f thinking of not getting married because I do not favor overly sexual marriages unlike many men. I would prefer intercourse to be restricted mostly to procreation. Afraid to die alone.
My decision is one that has been taken seriously and after quite some deliberation. My ideal physical intimacy includes kissing and caressing but…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam18 Jul 2002
If I arouse my wife by inserting a finger in her, or rubbing her private parts, does either of us need to make Ghusl?
Ghusl does not become compulsory. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam13 Jul 2002
Is it permissible for a married couple to refer to sexually related books available in local bookstores
Is it permissible for a married couple to refer to sexually related books available in local bookstores in order to enhance their physical/intimate…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam8 Jul 2002
As you said that it is not allowed to see the private part of women then how it can be possible to do intercourse without viewing the private part
As you said that it is not allowed to see the private part of women then how it can be possible to do intercourse without viewing the private part.…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam8 Jul 2002
we do not have a relationship at all, is that good? Secondly, is there a strong dua to which I can follow so that marriage to the girl is possible, since I love her?
Firsty, I am in love with a girl, and want to marry her for Allah's sake since I think I can sincerely teach her the correct way. Since, we do not…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam6 Jul 2002
Question About Masterbation and viewing of Private Parts of both partners.
Assalam-O-Alakum, Molana Sahib. I have a couple of questions about the relationship of husband and wife in islam. 1. I had seen on your site that it…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam1 May 2002
Is it permissable to be in a relationship before marriage, if not, what are the consequences?
At the outset, we wish to advise that every type of pre-marital relationship is Haraam (strictly prohibited). The concept of fiancé and fiancée has…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam23 Apr 2002
are women allowed to masterbate if their husbands cannot satisfy them sexually
It is not permissible for women to masturbate even if their husbands cannot satisfy them. The husband must address his weakness in any possible and…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam21 Apr 2002
Viewing wife/husband private part
Assalam-O-Alaikum. If a person often sees his/her wife/husband private part to amuse himself/herself than would he/she be sinful and would he/she be…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam29 Mar 2002
I am in a relationship with a muslim man, we have had sex one time but we have reqreted it and repented for it.I want to marry him because I can't face another man. What can I do to make this happen?
This man and I have been in a relationship for almost three years. He and I have reqreted what happend. Since then, both he and I have tried to stay…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam28 Mar 2002
Due to sexual excitement can the husband and wife both kiss each others private parts as long as no fluid from the wifes vagina or seminal fluid from the husbands penis enters in each others mouth?
Assalamu alaikum wrt wbt Dear Mufti Saab, I would appreciate an answer for the following question: 1. Due to sexual excitement can the husband and…
Moulana Imraan Vawda - Ask Imaam4 Mar 2002
Asslamo-Alykum: An Imam had a sexual encounter with a woman. Later he performed her Nikah with another man who did not know this. Is the Nikah valid?
The Nikah is valid. Both the Imam and the woman in question must make immediate Taubah (Repentance) and resolve never to indulge in the crime of…
Mufti Bilaal Cassim - Ask Imaam11 Feb 2002
what should be done if the wife is afraid of having sexual intercourse?
Asallam o Alaikum 1) What should be done if the wife is afraid of having sexual intercourse for the first time? This is because of the fear of blood…
Mufti Muhammad Kadwa - Ask Imaam31 Jan 2002
Is it allowed in Shariat to see the private parts during intercourse with the wife?
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'Hayaa (modesty) is an important branch of Imaan (faith).' In view of the above quotation, it is…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam5 Jan 2002
My friend's husband has been having open and flagerant adulturous relationship with another married woman for more than a year.
He openly admits to it, and had refused to stop. My friend finally kicked him out of the house three months ago. She does not want to go thru the…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam3 Jan 2002
Is it true that Islam permits a man to have an intimate realationship with both his wife and his servant/slave girl?
Assalamalikaum mufti sahib. A few brothers approached me and put to me that Islam allows a man to have a relationship with both his wife and his…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam3 Jan 2002
Is it necessary to do sexual intercourse on the wedding night, or else walima is valid or not?
It is not necessary to have intercourse during the wedding night. Walima is valid without intercourse. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai - Ask Imaam3 Jan 2002
Is it permissile to have sexual intercourse with my wife during the whole term of her pregnency. Also should I take any kind of precaution during the act while she is pregnant?
Intercourse during the whole pregnancy is permissible. The health of the wife should be considered. Anything detrimental to the health of the wife…
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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